The Core Four: "First & Last Episodes"
repeat after me:
- virginity is a social construct
- you don’t lose your virginity
- there’s nothing valuable or precious about virginity, it’s an imaginary concept
- virginity is inherently heterocentric
- your worth is not defined by whether or not you’ve had a dick inside you
- what you define as sex is up to you, you get to decide how many people you’ve had sex with
- the end
I don’t know if rape jokes encourage rape culture. I don’t care. You still shouldn’t tell them.
Statistically, if you have told a rape joke to a group of more than five people, one of the people you told it to was a rape survivor, possibly of multiple rapes. They will not necessarily disclose this to you; rape apologism is endemic in society and most rape survivors are cautious about whom they tell. Some may even be too ashamed of their rape to admit it to anyone, or because of rape-minimizing narratives like “men can’t be raped” and “I consented to oral, so I couldn’t have been raped” may not admit it even to themselves. The fact remains: if you’ve told dozens of rape jokes in your life, then you have almost certainly told a joke that minimizes or trivializes rape in front of a survivor.
And if you put as your Facebook status “I totally raped at Halo today” for your two hundred Facebook friends to see, statistically, you have just reminded thirty-three people of one of the worst experiences of their entire lives.
To describe how well you did at a video game.
“In life, when you are faced with an unfortunate circumstance, there is no book. There is no guide. There is no right answer on how to get to the other side. You just wake up one day and you have two paths in front of you. One where you go up and one where you can fall. Choosing the path to rise is most certainly not the easy path but it is the brave one.”
how do boys look good without makeup
Because society hasn’t told boys they look bad without it
This video really upset me. The amount of people that saw exactly what was going on and just walked away…is disgusting. Where has the human kindness and compassion in this world gone? Putting yourself on the line for someone else is terrifying whether it’s getting in the middle of something physical like that girl did in the video or whether it’s standing up for someone by stepping in verbally as another voice and speaking out for someone who’s too scared to talk. But would you feel worse receiving abuse yourself but knowing you stood up for someone and showed you’re a caring and compassionate human…or knowing you saw someone being bullied, hurt and abused and simply walked away?
"boy i’m in a great mood!"
"oh, please. you can’t REALLY be in a great mood. there are people out there who just got raises. people just got married. people are being reunited with their families right now. how dare you say you’re happy."
This is my son, Chester, who is nearly 4. He was invited to his friend Chloe’s birthday party today, the theme was prince and princesses. He asked if he could go as Sleeping Beauty, so I bought him a dress and put a cute little clip in his hair.
We arrived at the party to the following comments from the adults present:
“Oh that is just cruel.”
"Why did you make him wear a dress?"
"Poor little man, what’s your mummy playing at?"
"He’s going to hate you when he grows up."
"No way I’d let my son dress like a girl."
The fact is, Chester is almost completely gender neutral. I let him wear what he wants, be it boys or girls clothes, and he plays with whatever toys he likes. This usually involves him holding tea parties while wearing his pink Minnie Mouse top, jeans and a tiara. The guests are more often than not a mixture of Winnie The Pooh characters, dinosaurs, Barbie, Dora and solders, and they’re usually transported in his favorite fire engine.
When my husband arrived at the party later on, he was subjected to endless ridicule from the other dad’s present about how I must keep his balls in my back pocket because otherwise he would have put his foot down and not allowed Chester out like that. Oh, and by the way, our other son dressed as Ariel. When my husband pointed out that the boys were happy, and the mother of the birthday child made a point of saying how wonderful she thought it was that we allowed them freedom of choice and expression, they then stopped talking about it to our faces and started muttering about us behind our backs.
Interestingly enough, not a single child said a word about their choice of costumes, other than to compliment Chester on his new dress.
"I like to flip through old books to see if I can find any handwritten notes. Once I found one with a love note from 1917."
she hates friday just as much as we do
she is the robert pattinson of the music industry
REBECCA BLACK IS MY QUEEN.
This song is actually pretty great. Consider this my official request to work on “Sunday” or possibly “Tuesday” with Rebecca.